In my post, 19 Goals and Resolutions for 2019, resolution number sixteen said “Don’t wear yourself too thin. Learn to say “no” to things that overwhelm you. Learn to say “yes” to things that will help you grow.” In today’s post, I wanted to focus on this resolution and discuss ways to achieve it.
When I wrote my resolutions post, my brother looked over my shoulder and read number sixteen. After I finished writing the post, he asked me if he could show me a video that might help me. The Youtube video he showed me is called “The Closest Feeling to Death That Isn’t Death” .
This video, created by Jaiden Animations, tells an animated tale of someone who overworks themselves. It illustrates the extreme case of someone working until early morning hours, forgetting to eat, drinking only coffee and energy drinks. The video offers advice on taking time for yourself. I saw myself in this video. Although I value my sleep and make time for meals, I do tend to take on tasks until my schedule is completely full. Watching this video helped me see that I do need to make room in my busy schedules for free time.
“I do tend to take on tasks until my schedule is completely full.”
This video wasn’t the only video Ty has shown me that has made me reflect on this idea of “wearing myself too thin.” Not so long ago, he showed me a Pixar short called “Inner Workings” This short follows a man who’s regular routine includes waking up, going to an office job, and going home. Throughout the short, the man continuously walks by a beach filled with people partying and having fun. Several times, the man is invited to join them, but he continues his normal routine. At the end of the short, the man follows his heart and joins in on the fun, taking a break from his job and inviting his coworkers to do the same.
It’s hard, especially with the new school semester starting up, to find free time. As a college student, I feel as though I try to do whatever possible to build my GPA and my resume, while also working to make money. Both these videos bring up a very relatable point: We spend so much time making a living, we forget to live.
But we can break this habit. We can make time for family. We can make time for friends. We can schedule date nights, meet for coffee, go see shows. We can take time for self-care, as redundant as this statement is, it is necessary. We need to read books of our choice by candlelight. We need to put on a face mask and watch tv or movies. We need to take a half hour to do yoga or get exercise. We can still work hard and be successful people without sacrificing our mental and physical health.
“We need to read books of our choice by candlelight.”
How do we do this? We say “no” to taking on a task when our schedules are already too hectic. And we say “yes” only to the tasks and opportunities that will help us grow. Evaluate the opportunities and jobs you are presented with. It can be difficult, but we must choose what’s best for us. Challenge yourself, but don’t wear yourself too thin.
Life is for making a living, but most importantly, it’s for living.